Love and Relationship
Fear and hope are two things which are constant .
Either we live in constant hope of not being scared of anything or we are too scared to be hopeful.
Forgiving a person for his/her mistake when we want them in our lives is our skill and the obligation of a relationship.
Forgiving a person when they are not present any more in our lives is greatness because this forgiveness is not for a purpose.It comes out of the love , not the love for that person but the love which makes us realize that we don't need to forgive just because we want things to stay with us but we can be ourselves and the confidence with in that we will be able to love irrespective of what may come, stay and go and if by any means we are not able to forgive and forget things of the past, we were not in love. It was just a relationship.
Love can never be an obstacle in loving again. Love never makes you scared of love but a relationship does. If we are scared to love today ,we had a bad or a failed relationship in past. That is all about it. If we want to love again, we indeed are able to do so and we do actually .We just hesitate to hope for a good relationship and feel scared of again landing in a failed or bad alliance.
Love is never destined neither the relationships and even if they are, to change the destined into reality we need determination. We forget that we build a relationship not to love but to live together. Love was there since the beginning, we do not need to work on it.We start concentrating on the better ways to love instead of better ways to live which is foolish. People do not walk out of a relationship out of some compulsion , its only and always to find a better love.Consciously or unconsciously they do have the fear to loose what they have or they have the hope that they will find something better which is again not love. Love is constant in terms of hope and fear.
We need to understand if a relationship did not work out, if a person chose to walk out, if love could not resulted into a relationship, it was not destiny, it was a decision. A man made decision which must be accepted wholeheartedly.
Love is always a surprise. It changes it forms with the age, place, person and situation.
The feeling of love at thirty is different from what we used to feel at the age of thirteen. It is different when you love a person for the first time and it is a lot more different when you fall in love for the second time. It is different when you choose to fall for a person and it is quite different when you just accept the love which has been offered to you. It is different when you choose love. It is quite opposite when you chase love. Its always new ,different and unique. At thirteen , love is beautiful because it does not hold the burden of a relationship. It is refreshing, heavenly and pure because it does not need any managerial skill. We just do what we want, we just follow our heart.
At thirty , we demands love to be the same , we expect it to be it as refreshing , exciting and as pure as it is used to be at thirteen which is impossible. The concept of love remains same but at thirty, Life and Nature wants us to be spiritual because at some point of life, love has to have a purpose, a purpose which is for the betterment of our lives as well as for the betterment of nature and also this purpose needs to justify our existence.
At a certain point of life , love has to support life and that is why we need a relationship, marriage or an alliance to make the love an integral part of life to make the life meaningful and purposeful.
Relationships at a certain point of life are important, not because we need a relationship but because the Nature needs balance and we are free to choose whatever way to justify our existence . If we want to love but stay out of an alliance, we are very much free to do that. If we feel we can make our life better in a relationship, we can choose to do so.
Hope and fear are the integral part of life but not for the love. Love is a part of life the way hope and fear are. In a relationship, let us try to be hopeful for a better world, not only for a better family, let us be scared of not being a good human being instead of expecting a good lover always.
If hope is to see a better world, love will find its way and if fear is to not being able to stay good, love will never fade.
We must realize,
If a relationship ended, it was not destiny. It was just not meant to exist because it could not justify the purpose of life and the purpose of life is not always easy to realize.
Love is not blind, we are. Love always find the right eyes to dwell in, sooner or later where it can see the significance and beauty of life to the fullest.
When relationships work as a tool to love the life which we choose to justify our existence and help us to achieve the determination to do so, they become destiny.
Relationships must result into eternal love, not love should end in a relationship.
With time thoughts change, ideology changes, the way we judge people, our reaction to different situations, our priorities, everything changes but in the midst of all , two things remain unchanged. Our nature to fear and to hope.
These days I am reading the philosophy of Sadguru Jaggi Vasudev and that has helped me a lot to understand things in a different way. To love, fear and hope are not required at all, neither do they play any role but in a relationship they are the key elements.
Relationship is managing your love which involves the role of the other person whom we love and that makes it complicated and difficult but love is free of all the nuisances and the responsibilities. If we are in love, we just need to be ourselves. It does not require anything else but in a relationship we have to be to a certain extent what the other person expects us to be.
If we are managing well, its a good relationship and if we are not, it is the end of it but the irony is the end of the relationship is often misunderstood as end of love which is actually not true.
Heart can never stop loving and that is the best and sometimes also the worst thing we are born with.
We just cannot deny to be in love with even if we say that we do not want a relationship.
We are destined and designed to love.
Heart can never stop loving and that is the best and sometimes also the worst thing we are born with.
We just cannot deny to be in love with even if we say that we do not want a relationship.
We are destined and designed to love.
Love never ends. Love remains there for always even after a relationship comes to an end.
People forget that it was their heart, their emotions, their feelings, their hormones which were responsible for that situation and even if it did not work out well for some reasons or if the other person chose to walk out, the chemical composition of the body and the position and functioning of their heart is same as it is was before.
Love does not require a relationship to exist at all and a relationship requires a lot of things including love to exist. Relationship without understanding the true concept behind requires the hope to be loved and the fear of not being loved and the strength to forgive unnecessarily. Love does not need hope, it just happens without any effort and is free of fear.
Love is not how we forgive our beloveds when they do something which is just absurd. Love is not denying the fact that what we desire/wish is different and with what we are compromising is not the best thing for us. This all is relationship, certainly not Love and if in a relationship if somebody says that I forgive because I love, it would be the last truth because we choose to forgive in a relationship because we want to settle down in a situation which we know, is not good for us but we continue to do so because we are scared of the unseen. We fear the worse and we always hope for the best and that actually stops us to make the right decision. If somebody says I love you because I am scared of not being with you, it is not love but the desire to be together. I love you because I trust your words that you will never leave me alone, its not love. Hope and fear both are associated with relationships.
Love does not require a relationship to exist at all and a relationship requires a lot of things including love to exist. Relationship without understanding the true concept behind requires the hope to be loved and the fear of not being loved and the strength to forgive unnecessarily. Love does not need hope, it just happens without any effort and is free of fear.
Love is not how we forgive our beloveds when they do something which is just absurd. Love is not denying the fact that what we desire/wish is different and with what we are compromising is not the best thing for us. This all is relationship, certainly not Love and if in a relationship if somebody says that I forgive because I love, it would be the last truth because we choose to forgive in a relationship because we want to settle down in a situation which we know, is not good for us but we continue to do so because we are scared of the unseen. We fear the worse and we always hope for the best and that actually stops us to make the right decision. If somebody says I love you because I am scared of not being with you, it is not love but the desire to be together. I love you because I trust your words that you will never leave me alone, its not love. Hope and fear both are associated with relationships.
If we are continuous in a state of forgiving, letting things go, compromising with every other wish and desire, ready to do anything just to make things work, we are not in love. We are in a relationship where we want to make it work when it is not working.We are just incapable ,weak and foolish and again if we are very sacrificing and compromising in a relationship , we think we are great lovers which is just absurd and weird. We need to forgive to give a chance to the other person not to take a chance again for us.
We often misunderstand our inability with our strength.
We often misunderstand our inability with our strength.
I just don't understand people who are always in a hurry to describe love as some spiritual , destined, metaphysical and some out of reach sort of thing which is something beyond the capability of the common.
What was spiritual about Rukmini eloping with Lord Krishna on the day of her marriage? It was just a decision. Instantaneous, strong and from mind. Spiritual was her decision to rebel against her brother for the atrocity and the wrong he wanted to do.
The process of that realization that she could decide for herself , she had the right to do what she felt right was something which was spiritual, metaphysical and rare.
Love was instantaneous for both of them. For Krishna, it was probably the realization that he is somebody's only hope and for Rukmini , it was the feeling that there is somebody who also feels that she is doing the right thing and has understood her situation and is ready to help her out to let go the fear of being married to a person whom she does not admire.
Spiritual is not forgiving the person whom we love, neither stop loving him/her. Spiritual is to set ourselves free of the need of alliance with that person and understanding that togetherness is not a requirement to love. It is the realization that we are letting things go because that is no more required.We are letting it go because we don't need it anymore to live .
The process of that realization that she could decide for herself , she had the right to do what she felt right was something which was spiritual, metaphysical and rare.
Love was instantaneous for both of them. For Krishna, it was probably the realization that he is somebody's only hope and for Rukmini , it was the feeling that there is somebody who also feels that she is doing the right thing and has understood her situation and is ready to help her out to let go the fear of being married to a person whom she does not admire.
Spiritual is not forgiving the person whom we love, neither stop loving him/her. Spiritual is to set ourselves free of the need of alliance with that person and understanding that togetherness is not a requirement to love. It is the realization that we are letting things go because that is no more required.We are letting it go because we don't need it anymore to live .
Forgiving a person for his/her mistake when we want them in our lives is our skill and the obligation of a relationship.
Forgiving a person when they are not present any more in our lives is greatness because this forgiveness is not for a purpose.It comes out of the love , not the love for that person but the love which makes us realize that we don't need to forgive just because we want things to stay with us but we can be ourselves and the confidence with in that we will be able to love irrespective of what may come, stay and go and if by any means we are not able to forgive and forget things of the past, we were not in love. It was just a relationship.
Love can never be an obstacle in loving again. Love never makes you scared of love but a relationship does. If we are scared to love today ,we had a bad or a failed relationship in past. That is all about it. If we want to love again, we indeed are able to do so and we do actually .We just hesitate to hope for a good relationship and feel scared of again landing in a failed or bad alliance.
Love is never destined neither the relationships and even if they are, to change the destined into reality we need determination. We forget that we build a relationship not to love but to live together. Love was there since the beginning, we do not need to work on it.We start concentrating on the better ways to love instead of better ways to live which is foolish. People do not walk out of a relationship out of some compulsion , its only and always to find a better love.Consciously or unconsciously they do have the fear to loose what they have or they have the hope that they will find something better which is again not love. Love is constant in terms of hope and fear.
We need to understand if a relationship did not work out, if a person chose to walk out, if love could not resulted into a relationship, it was not destiny, it was a decision. A man made decision which must be accepted wholeheartedly.
Love is always a surprise. It changes it forms with the age, place, person and situation.
The feeling of love at thirty is different from what we used to feel at the age of thirteen. It is different when you love a person for the first time and it is a lot more different when you fall in love for the second time. It is different when you choose to fall for a person and it is quite different when you just accept the love which has been offered to you. It is different when you choose love. It is quite opposite when you chase love. Its always new ,different and unique. At thirteen , love is beautiful because it does not hold the burden of a relationship. It is refreshing, heavenly and pure because it does not need any managerial skill. We just do what we want, we just follow our heart.
At thirty , we demands love to be the same , we expect it to be it as refreshing , exciting and as pure as it is used to be at thirteen which is impossible. The concept of love remains same but at thirty, Life and Nature wants us to be spiritual because at some point of life, love has to have a purpose, a purpose which is for the betterment of our lives as well as for the betterment of nature and also this purpose needs to justify our existence.
At a certain point of life , love has to support life and that is why we need a relationship, marriage or an alliance to make the love an integral part of life to make the life meaningful and purposeful.
Relationships at a certain point of life are important, not because we need a relationship but because the Nature needs balance and we are free to choose whatever way to justify our existence . If we want to love but stay out of an alliance, we are very much free to do that. If we feel we can make our life better in a relationship, we can choose to do so.
Hope and fear are the integral part of life but not for the love. Love is a part of life the way hope and fear are. In a relationship, let us try to be hopeful for a better world, not only for a better family, let us be scared of not being a good human being instead of expecting a good lover always.
If hope is to see a better world, love will find its way and if fear is to not being able to stay good, love will never fade.
We must realize,
If a relationship ended, it was not destiny. It was just not meant to exist because it could not justify the purpose of life and the purpose of life is not always easy to realize.
Love is not blind, we are. Love always find the right eyes to dwell in, sooner or later where it can see the significance and beauty of life to the fullest.
When relationships work as a tool to love the life which we choose to justify our existence and help us to achieve the determination to do so, they become destiny.
Relationships must result into eternal love, not love should end in a relationship.
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