Love: It was never about us. It was always about right and wrong.

Does it really matter? Right and wrong? Fortunately it still matters for few people. So how does it start? When and how do we start recognizing right and wrong. For some it never happens actually and for the rest it starts when we  start understanding other's pain. One cannot define right and wrong but the simplest way to understand it is analysing the consequence of our actions. If we are the reason for somebody's pain  then we are wrong and this is the only truth which is sure as death. But it is not as simple as that. Pain is not what we see as tears. Quoting Geeta " Pain caused by Lust, Anger, fear and Ego (I, Me and Mine) is not pain." History always guides us. Whenever we are stuck  if we look back, we can always find an answer. If Arjuna would have thought of Gandhari's pain,He could never fight. If Krishna would have considered Yashoda's pain, He could never leave Vrindavan. If Rama would have considered Mandodari's Pain, He could never kill Ravana. If Gandhi ji would have thought of the pain caused by the insult and humiliation he faced in South Africa,  he could never make India a free nation. If a mother would think about the pain she goes through,she could never give birth. If a father would think  about the pain he has to endure after sending his son away to pursue a  career, he can  never become a proud father. Somewhere, somehow our life is all about the decisions we make and these decisions are based on the pain we choose to accept and the happiness we choose to chase. Arjun chose to fight because he preferred the grief of Draupadi over Gandhari's and the self-respect of a woman over suffering of a mother. Similarly Krishna preferred the pain of the  innocent people who were struggling for  life under the kingdom of Kansa over the pain of Yashoda. Ram Preferred the pain and suffering of people who were deprived of justice. Gandhi Ji preferred the cause of mankind. If we prefer the right cause,it becomes the right decision and  the right decision becomes right action. So basically right and wrong are right and wrong much before we actually do something. It is something which is there in our heart and mind as the capacity to recognize the real pain,the real suffering and the real cause. If we are able to differentiate between the real pain and the one caused by Lust,Anger,fear and Ego, we are right and if we are not, we cannot be. Relations,opportunities,Problems,inabilities cannot change this concept. Right and wrong are beyond these explanations.

Love is never about what we want, what we need,what we should,what we should not,what we can,what we cannot. Love is always about fighting for the cause we believe in. Love is all about living for what we feel right. Love is about choosing the pain which we feel is real. It is about chasing the happiness which we believe can create a better world. Love is never about compromising with our dreams,it is about seeing a dream together which can lighten the dark around us. When two hearts come together,it is never about spending the life together. It is about living together to prove something which we feel is right and possible. Love is not about letting our fear win over us that we cannot live without that person,it is about fighting for the boundaries created by this world which has filled this innocent heart with fear and agony. Love is there to balance the world. If we love somebody truly,we are blessed with the capacity of nurturing this beautiful Earth. If we are capable of fighting for it,we are blessed with the conscience which shows path to right and wrong. Love and pain are always related because without understanding pain,you cannot understand right and wrong and Love...it happens only when  everything seems right. Pain has to be there to realize Love and  Love has to be impartial to recognize the real pain.

If  we  all believe that at a certain point of life, we were in love then it was never about us. It was always about what  we felt right. We were not with those people because we wanted to be with them but  we were  because we could feel that it was the right thing to do. We could see the truth in their eyes and we could decide the right.

P.S.: I will not cry for myself  because I know I am right and I will not cry for you because I know you are wrong and I will  not cry for us  because it was never about us. It was always about right and wrong.

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